How I Craft a Ceremony That Feels Like You
Every couple I meet has a story. And as a celebrant, my job isn’t just to stand at the front and read words off a page - it’s to take your story, sprinkle in a little magic, and create a ceremony that feels like you, not anyone else.
Here’s a peek behind the scenes of how I craft ceremonies that are personal, heartfelt, and unforgettable.
Getting to Know You
Before I write a single word, I sit down with you (and sometimes your dog or cat - I don’t judge!) to understand what makes your love story uniquely yours.
How did you meet?
What are the quirks, habits, or shared moments that define your relationship?
What do you want your guests to feel during the ceremony?
Every detail, no matter how small, helps me shape a ceremony that truly reflects who you are as a couple.
2. Choosing the Tone
Ceremonies can be funny, romantic, heartfelt, or a mix of everything. Together, we decide the tone that fits you. Do you want guests laughing one moment and reaching for tissues the next? Or something poetic and deeply romantic from start to finish? Either way, the ceremony should feel natural - like it’s flowing from you.
3. Crafting Your Words
Once I understand your story and style, I get to the fun part: writing the script. This is where I blend:
Your voices (sometimes literally including your own words)
Heartfelt vows
Meaningful rituals or readings
A touch of celebrant flair
The goal is always the same: words that feel like you’re talking to each other, not just performing for the guests.
4. Personal Touches That Make a Difference
I love weaving in the little details that make your story uniquely yours - from sharing funny anecdotes about how you met, to highlighting what makes your relationship special, or incorporating meaningful readings, jokes, or personal messages. Every choice, from the words we use to the moments we emphasise, is designed to make your ceremony feel authentic and unforgettable.
5. Making Guests Feel Part of Your Story
A ceremony isn’t just about the couple - it’s about everyone who’s come to celebrate. I focus on creating a space where your guests feel connected to your story, whether that’s through heartfelt storytelling, funny anecdotes, or highlighting moments that showcase your personalities. The aim is for everyone to leave feeling included, moved, and truly part of your special day.
6. Practicing, Perfecting, and Relaxing
Before the big day, we run through the ceremony together so it feels effortless and natural. My job is to help you feel calm, confident, and ready to enjoy every moment - because the magic happens when you’re relaxed and present.
The Takeaway
A ceremony should never be a “one-size-fits-all” experience. It’s a celebration of you, your story, and the love you share. That’s why every ceremony I craft is personal, heartfelt, and completely unique.
Because at the end of the day, your wedding ceremony isn’t just an event - it’s your love story, told in your own words, with your own style, and with everyone who matters most there to witness it.